New Year New You Vision – What Have You Been Putting Off?
New Year, New You?
It’s January, and it’s that time of year when we all feel motivated and enthusiastic about being the best version of ourselves over the next 12 months. Whether it’s to work on your health and fitness or just getting more organised, according to a recent YouGov survey, 25% of us make New Year’s Resolutions.
It’s a great time to make a commitment to yourself. However, it can be difficult to make those resolutions stick. 28% of people in the YouGov survey didn’t follow through on any of their resolutions. To be successful, it’s essential to make sure you’re focusing on the right things.
What have you been putting off?
We’ve all got it – that list of things we want to do but never take any positive steps to complete. What’s the one big thing you keep putting off? Applying for that promotion? Running a marathon? Studying for a new qualification?
Maybe there’s a resolution you set last year that you didn’t follow through on and you want a second run at it. Whatever it is that you’ve kept on the backburner that will make a big difference to your life, why not start it now?
What’s stopping you?
The biggest excuse I hear from my clients about why they don’t get something done?
“I don’t have time,” “I’m too busy,” “I can’t find the time,” are things I hear a lot.
It’s true that all of us find ways to fill our time, but it’s also true that we can make time for anything we want to. Time is often a very convenient excuse that hides the real reasons we’re not doing something. It’s not the only excuse we use, but it is the most common.
So what’s really stopping you?
Whatever your excuse, it’s probably fear underneath it all.
Fear of failure, fear of success, fear that others won’t approve or will judge you. Getting past whatever fear is holding you back is the key to achieving your resolutions – or at least getting them started!
Sometimes, however, it’s not fear that stops people from starting something or from completing it.
Another common blocker I come across with clients is that they’re putting something off because it doesn’t actually align with who they are. When you’re adding things to your list, it’s tempting to add goals that sound good, or that you think you ‘should’ do.
Whatever it is you want to achieve, it should be something YOU really want.
Think about your goal. Do you truly want it? Does it give you joy? Does it align with your values? Or is it something you think you should do? If it’s the latter, reconsider if your energy would be better spent elsewhere. Is there another task to focus on, something more aligned with you?
Getting it done by breaking it down
If you know your goal aligns with your personal values, and you’re ready to start but feel overwhelmed, try breaking it down.
Sometimes when a task or goal seems overwhelming, we put it off because we’re not sure how to start. The best way to get anything done is to break it down into smaller, manageable steps. Once you complete one step, you’ll be motivated to do the next, and so on. By taking it one step at a time, it will all seem much less daunting.
You don’t need a new you
It’s easy to get swept away with the concept of a ‘New Year, New You.’ However, when your goals align with your values, the ‘New You’ you’re imagining isn’t really new – just the best version of you.
Instead of thinking that you need to change yourself to reach your goals, consider that perhaps you just need to be more yourself. The problem is, most of us don’t give much thought to who we are, and what is driving us. In order to get the best results, you need to understand yourself. Is it time to discover the real you?
My online programme ‘Find the Real You,’ starts March 2020. In the programme, I’ll be helping you to discover what really matters to you.
After taking part, you’ll be able to identify your strengths and personal values, and choose goals that complement your natural skills and values.
Join our free online community Be Confident: Make Time For You. It’s a safe and supportive place for like-minded people to reconnect with themselves, make positive changes, and flourish in every aspect of their life and work. Think of the group as your one-stop shop for reflecting, connecting, inspiring, learning, and most importantly, committing to change.